Being the “Only” child…What is it like, How it feels…What you gain…What you lose…

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This time, Singapore Desi puts a thinking cap and analyses her experience of being the “Only” child of her parents..

Here is the summary –

1. There is often one misconception that people have about kids that are “only one” of their parents. Wow, you must have got everything, your wish is like parents’ command…True and Not True! Yes, you do get all the love of your parents and all the scolding too…:D…Lol..It gets annoying when people bind you to a stereotype of “spoilt brat”…

2. Since you are the only child, you don’t have to share toys, clothes, your anything!! All is exclusively yours..Hurray! When you are a kid, it really makes you very happy. 🙂 🙂3. Being the “only” child means you are center of attention of your parents 24X7..Very good but sometimes too interfering it can get especially in teen years.. 😛

4. You have no idea what to do on special days like Siblings Day etc. You can have cousins but over a period of time, realization strikes that it is always very special and different to have your “own” bro / sis…

5. You grow up to be very friendly with outsiders – classmates, colleagues and appear to be extrovert..Outings, parties, events – you will be the life of the party..Though, deep down in your heart, you are an introvert and difficult to open up to strangers.

6. You love animals a lot and tend to care for them. I remember having 10 cats at one point of time in my home and one of the cat, I considered as my brother.. :O

7. You become very sentimental when brother-sister songs start playing..At least for me, I always get teary-eyed for my never-born bro..

8. You will never be able to truly understand emotions like sibling rivalry and revelry..and You will never have someone to bully, to play with, to complain about, to learn from..

9. As you grow old and your parents older, you will start getting that haunting feeling of what will happen when your parents are gone…You will not have anyone to share their memories, to talk about them, to miss them..
Of course, by then, own set of family – hubby and kids will be there with you…But still… 🙁

Ya, ya, it is not that bad to be the only kid, it has its own advantages too..Though, in retrospection, I might have been a better person with siblings around.

So if possible, parents, do give a sibling to your kid 🙂 🙂

Shub
(For RainbowDiaries)

Disclaimer: this post is completely based on personal experience.

11 thoughts on “Being the “Only” child…What is it like, How it feels…What you gain…What you lose…”

  2. Meiling Wong-Chainani

    I agree with all your summations of being an only child. So Hubby and I made a decision that we will have at least 2 kids so they will have company. Fortunately for us, it happened. Thank God for that. They are best of friends and we hope they stay that way. 🙂

  6. Veron Zhen

    I’m not the only child but I am the eldest of 3.. and being the only girl in a traditional Chinese family, my grandmother and parents favoured my 2 younger brothers.
    Whatever I wanted, I could only wait for them to want. Sometimes, I had to lie that “Didi also wants” something but actually I was the one who wanted it.

    Growing up was tough as shit, but I am glad I survived till adulthood and got old enough to get married and move out to start a life I desire 🙂

  7. SengkangBabies

    Thank you for sharing, our kids are always BFF and mortalEnemies every few moments haha.
    But I know they miss each other when they do not get to meet.

    cheers, Andy
    (SengkangBabies.com)

  8. Lingling

    I have a younger brother and I’m really thankful for that. Is always a blessing to have a sibling, a playmate in our childhood years.

  9. michael

    I grew up as #2 of 4. wifey grew up as #2 of 3. We are trying to go for 4. a friend of mine says to do it asap so they will never feel lonely.

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